Don't know, dude, but I do know you need to stop the negative self talk. Working on that myself and it ain't easy, I know.

Have you ready Divorce Remedy yet? You need to. It will give you a map for what you need to be doing from here.

You just need to continue to stay positive and love yourself (easier said than done), but also continue to just love her and show her that love.

Unfortunately, you have to just put yourself out there on a limb. If your M is what you want, you have to be willing to be the one who does all the work for awhile.

Continue to just talk lovingly to her, touch her when you walk by, etc. Act "as if" nothing is wrong.

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10