Just something to think about...you are NOT in a committed relationship...that would mean that H is committed as well to you and right now he isn't...so for your ownsake you need to make that differentiation...because you are right in that persons in a committed relationship don't have OW/OM on the side...
I would also suggest not thinking about how things are going with OW...or if she is wondering what he is doing away from home...that is giving her too much of YOU...
Take care...it sounds like you are doing much better today...
