How are you feeling j? I don't know if he has so much guilt over what he is done that he has convinced himself of his "cover story" or if he is just "sticking to his story" or if he has rewritten history completely in his own mind. I hope you're able to get past your disappointment and anger and find away to somehow let go of how things got to where they are today and when you move up there you can truly give everything a fighting chance of working out. No reason to move there otherwise, if you go, hopefully you'll have the ability to match your heart and your head with your intentions