thanks for the post guys. jazz, i went dark once for a month and at the time i thought it was a bad thing but as i look back i think it through her off. when we wernt talking she went out of her way to tell friends how great she was doing and she started going to bars where she could run into me. at the time i thought she was rubbing it in, but as i look back i think the bar thing was hoping to run into me and trying to convince everyone how great she was i believe she was trying to get that back to me. i am going to probably go dark for a couple of weeks through our anniversary and i want to see if there is anything on her part that gives me a clue what to do.
when i am dark though if she calls i need to respond in a positive way not with a chip on my shoulder like i have done int the past.
