Sorry I haven't been around much lately I don't seem to get a minute. Its interesting reading your last few posts about how your H says things you did were abusive yet you cannot see it. I have this same problem with my H but not on such a grand scale as calling it "abuse". Whenever I say anything that is not bowing down at his feet like even a suggestiong that something would be better done differently or whatever he says I'm getting at him. He is always telling me I'm shouting at him or being stroppy with him when my voice isn't even raised and when we try and talk about it all he says its not so much what i say but the way I say it. I ask him how he thinks I should say things so as not to get this reaction from him and he cannot tell me. He is in the same line of work as your H so I wonder if 25 years' theory is right.
Anyway that's all for now as I'm shattered. We put S into his first bed a few weeks ago and now he's getting me up very very very early whereas before in his cot he'd settle himself back down. He's exhausted and I'm exhausted - maybe I should put his cot back up until he's older so I can get some beauty sleep!
