If things get worked out, you HAVE to trust her again. you're working this hard to get her back, you will be able to trust her. you forgive her and start over. Granted you don't have much history so starting over may not have the same effect as it would on, say my situation, but it's still meaningful.
I know my wife is feeling similar - she doesn't know if she can trust me. I'm guessing that is a HUGE deal for her. I hope we find out soon.
Just do like me and hope for the best and watch for those little positive changes. See if she'll read DR or something? I don't know. I'm as lost as you, I'm just 100% committed to my wife, my son - my family so I'll be here for as long as it takes. I will never give up. They'll have to drag me kicking and screaming to sign any papers - ever!
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
