New guy stuggling

[alamogirl]

Hi Aaron,

Sounds a lot like my story too except that H didn't move 2500 miles away, and he never told me that he didn't love me, he just said that he didn't think there was anything there. The more I read about Mid-Life Crisis, the more I know that that's what my H is going through.

I found an excellent Mid-Life Crisis website and forum. I don't post over there because the people don't seem to be very friendly...my perception, I guess.

I know the empty feeling you are feeling. I don't have kids, so you must be feeling it even more. I'm now doing stuff by myself. My brother/wife live with me right now, but we don't do much together anyway. I have other siblings but they have their own thing going on. It seems that my siblings tend to do more things with their in-laws than with their own siblings.

Anyway, all I can tell you is to keep busy. Keep doing what your doing with your exercising. I have friends I call and do stuff with. I try to do stuff with a friend at least once a week so that it appears that I have a social life...ha! These are friends I've had for a very long time. I also do stuff on my own. I try to meet once a month with alumni from my university.

I know it's hard, and coming here and reading what everyone is going through also has been comforting. I know that sounds weird since I don't wish anything bad to anyone here but it's comforting to know that you're not alone...know what I mean?

Hang in there Aaron. The left behind spouses, as we are called, always feel the blame sometime or another. It took me a long time to realize it wasn't all me. I've course I contributed, I was in the marriage after all, but I know it wasn't all my fault. It's not all your fault either, no matter how many times you had to go on business trips and how you just wanted to hang around the house. There is no harm in doing that. Our spouses are to blame as well, since they just sat back and sulked or nagged. They should have been loving but forceful.

All my best,
alamogirl