I would say the danger you face in avoiding confrontation is that one day the love will just die without ever confronting.
Yes .. unfortunately I believe that the "love dying" is closer than anyone (H or I) will admit.
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But since you have decided to accept, please do the things you want to do.
This is the very hard part. I'm guessing if my H wasn't putting us in such a financial dilemma (with all of his spending on his drinking) that maybe I COULD "allow" (in my mind) things to continue as they have been.
But .. with H refusing to work (says he can't and that there is no work out there) and still continuing to spend $$, he is moving us towards possible bankruptcy. In my mind .. all he has to do is get back to work and things would be "okay". He won't have any part of this type of thinking.
So .. (once again), in MY mind, I am constantly agonizing as to how I can continue to "accept" .. but stop him from draining us financially.
