Wow, I just have to reiterate, CM, that you are amazing and doing a great job. I ^5 you and AMEN to the fact that *IF* he were to still make disrespectful choices with what you are giving him now, you would have 100% right to say Buh-bye!
But, thinking positively, and remember the Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus-type issues. He is a guy, he is deployed, and things may not be what you'd like all the time. This does NOT automatically mean he is being disrespectful to you. I SO hope the months pass quickly and easily for you and before you know it Christmas will be here and you will both will get the one on one time you so deserve.