Dorie" from "Finding Nemo" in the back of my mind, singing "Just keep swimming, just keep swimming . . .

LOL, the grand daughters favorite video. I liked it and "Cars."

I'm not understanding your "P.S." Are you saying you were a lucky bast$rd last nite?
Boinking usually means sex Choc. It's been a month or so for us/me. I tried to have some "us time" o/w conflict, you know, waiting till the time was right, :eyeroll: since the end of last week, now 8 days past.

Thursday evening I decided to just do-it. BB had a few objections. The typical, "it would have been better if you/Lou would have ______________....." but that is normal.

The next day I told BB my blood pressure was down 5 points, I slept better, and I was more relaxed. She worries about her and my blood pressure that runs around 135/140 w/o meds. I showed her my 125 on the home BP meter. \:\) Yea, I know. According to BB, if I would forger about sex, the BP would go down naturally. Wanting sex just keeps it high. :eyeroll:

And why, o why, does she push ME away, and then end up with some romantic void in her life that she has to look elsewhere to try and fill?
Same here Choc.

The best I can guess is some people want the soup with out cutting up the ingredients and cooking it.

I have a hunch, wanting something a person doesn't have is somewhat normal. Maybe it is associated to our hunting gathering ancestry. We want more things. We want what looks good on the outside but don't know what is wrong on the inside. Same old same O is boring. Variety is exciting for a while till the downside bites you in the butt.

Like I said before, simple is good for me. For some people attention, status, things, etc are important.

I am helping (electrical, plumbing repairs) an older couple from church. The H has a serious medical condition. H & W are very nice. BB really admires the guy. He is so complimentary to everyone and BB eats the compliments up. Your W sounds similar.

... a problem that this keeps recurring, about once every 3 years, this "wanderlust" in my wife. What is she not getting from me and our marriage that makes these other guys so attractive to her??
My first thought, the OP doesn't have any demands a first and their is no baggage in a new R/friendship. New feels good till the expenses and repairs start showing up. Just my opinion.

Choc, if the tables were turned and it was you txting an OW, I can imagine your W hanging on to you for dear life.

One of my smart azz comments I had in my head only, was to go to the OM and say “You like my W? Pay off the tummy tuck, the BMW, the college fund for the 4 kids, buy her a new house, and pay for X, Y, and Z I bought for her in the last 5 years.”

I think the guy would have second thoughts about rescuing your W or seeing her as a plum ripe for picking. I don’t know what the OM sees or thinks. Adding the responsibility part to any A/overly involved friendship to my way of thinking should cool the fantasy.

It was my thought so don’t do it Choc. If your W ever got wind of it, she might think you think/feel, she is for sale. Like I said smart azz thoughts. Say 7th gradish?

Maybe that line of thinking (which I had going in to almost all of my R) kept me from having casual R’s with women/girls. Too many people think love is free/easy. It involves a lot of work, IYKWIM.

Lou