10 months is a long time. I'm like 789, only in this about 2 months right now and it is tough. But I made a decision about 2 weeks in (once I quit doing the wrong things and started doing the right things) that I would stick with it as long as necessary! I'm committed to that because I love my wife, I love my son and I know without a shadow of a doubt that my family isn't supposed to break up. Now, that doesn't mean it won't because my wife has her own free-will, but I will be doing everything in my power to improve what I can control.

For you, maybe you need to detach? Maybe there is a 180 or two you could do. I'm working my way through DR and I find MANY things I've done wrong and can reverse. Maybe it'll be the same for you. I can't believe how many cheeseless tunnels I've gone down. I've done the same thing over and over expecting a different result and that's just foolish. Look at your actions, and if they're not working, do something else?!

I'd say you're a real trooper for going 10 months with apparently little improvement, but remember to look for the small changes. I've had a couple of little changes from my W and I look to those things as proof we have a chance. Again, only being at this 2 months I can't fully relate with what you're feeling but I do look to people like you for hope, so keep up the fight! \:\)

We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.

3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...