I like the bit about the blisters and callouses. I'm associating "pain" with "no progress," and as your analogy points out to me, that's not necessarily the case. In fact, around the gym of course, we like to say "NO pain, no gain."
Something tells me "the gravel pile" is an image that entered my consciousness now -- LOL. Daily shovelling. I've also had "Dorie" from "Finding Nemo" in the back of my mind, singing "Just keep swimming, just keep swimming . . . "
To answer your question, the OM is single, and HE's been helping HER (yes, trainers have trainers). As confused as I've been throughout this, there is one thing of which I'm 100% certain, and that is that the relationship with OM is just a symptom of the problem; it's not the problem itself. HOWEVER, it is something that -- if it has progressed to the full EA phase (and I'm still not so sure it has), attacking it immediately, while I work on me, is imperative. There is also a problem that this keeps recurring, about once every 3 years, this "wanderlust" in my wife. What is she not getting from me and our marriage that makes these other guys so attractive to her??
And why, o why, does she push ME away, and then end up with some romantic void in her life that she has to look elsewhere to try and fill?
I'm not undertanding your "P.S." Are you saying you were a lucky bast$rd last nite?
