Plan a date with the wife, no R talk, just fun. Do something neither of you have done before to create new memories, new connections that don't have anything to do with your past.
I thought that was really good. I'm gonna do it!! I will remind her ahead of time of "no R talk," so she doesn't think it's another "heavy" ambush.
And yes, I need to dial down my expectations. I'm trying, I really am. The nighttime is the worst.
