Need another opinion, is my W OM, friend or more?

[andyv]

Had a good talk to W this afternoon.

Discussed boundaries re inviting EA to our house and keeping him away from DD unless necessary. As long as he is not in my "space" I will not bring him up again in discussion.

Validated all W's concerns re lack of emotional support and controlling/jealous nature during marriage.

Discussed that we would not discuss divorce or sale of house etc until Divorce day (still no date from W).

I still respect W's decision for sep/div, will not instigate a R or misread anything she does. Onlyw want us to be caring and considerate to each other.

Discussed a few minor things as well.

Finished off with a nice coffee and cupcake. W seemed more relaxed and happy and agreed with everything discussed. She told me that EA was only a great friend, and neither have discussed anything about relationships, PA or future between the two. She just enjoys his company. I asked her if he was gay (and she said she didn't know).

Funny, if you have known and spent a lot of time together with someone, you would think that if he was straight, she would have answered that question with a firm "No", rather than saying "I don't know".

Will wait and see how things progress after today. We both walked away feeling a lot better (as she is probably more exhausted than I am with this whole sitch).