Choc., who supposedly "won the round," but sure feels like cracked ribs to me.
Choc, I see a big pile of disconnects between you and your W, I will call the gravel pile.
The pile got to its present size, a scoop at a time. You have a shovel and can't get rid of the pile in a few days. No prince kissing the princess and she wakes up. That type of story just sells books.
I will go along with NOP, you did well showing up, shoveling your stuff. In situations like yours showing up, starting to shovel down the pile is a victory. Just showing up is a victory step, some people would avoid. It’s a victory when you can keep yourself together on the outside when confronting Your W’s A and look like you are in control on the outside, then do your other dad things.
You say it feels like you have cracked ribs from the last round. Maybe a better thing to think is, you can start to feel a few blisters on your hands from the shoveling work you did yesterday. Blistered hands can turn to calloused hands, when the area is worked for a while. Use all the aids available to mend and heal the blisters you feel you might have or might acquire.
I was wondering if the OM has a W or kids. If so, is his M screwed up and your W and the OM are finding comfort in each other?
Sometimes people want to blame all on the OM. Reality can be your W started out helping him and had no intentions of it going this far, or there could be other reasons for the A.
Not important, so don’t think about the reasons. You have enough work ahead of you. I have a list of smart azz remarks about the OM but I will keep them to myself for now.
I read On TheBeach’s post Remember, it's not the OM that you need to focus on. It's the relationship with your wife. and thought yes, she could end her involvement with the OM any time and go no contact with him.
(((((Choc.))))) man-o-steel.
Lou
PS Geez, women that want/like to be chased, don't like to be caught, then have A's of some type. Choc, I am taking this all in and decided to chase and catch BB and do some boinking just because it needed to be done.
