Needed: A Big Dose of Reality

[iluvme]

Hi Cadesmom,

I just want to say that my H said the exact same thing to me. He told me that I did not appreciate all the things that he did for me like housework etc... I know they need alot of "attaboys" but is that a reason to divorce without trying or cheat on your spouse.

If that is a good reason, I think I should've done that to him. I never got any "thank you honeys" for doing this or that for me. I agree that communication is a key issue. As a couple, we forgot how to address each other nicely and appreciate the simple things that one another provide on a daily basis. On top of that, the stress of jobs and raising children just compounds the communication issues. Maybe there are other forums on couples in healthy relationships with examples of good communication??

I asked my girl friend if she knew any married couple that was monogomous for 20 yrs with their spouse. She couldn't name one person. We were both a little disheartened.

Did you feel guilty when your H told you this? Did you think it can be corrected so he can communicate how underappreciated he felt? Did you feel appreciated for taking care of the kids? Did he make you feel special? Just wondering since our H said the same things.