I konw your baby is very little now (mercy, how do you have time to be online). You may want to work on just dealing w/H verbally. When he talks R, see what happens if you act preoccupied. Mmm. Uh huh. See what happens if, when he talks about not being right for each other, if you act skeptical too--hmm, maybe you are right. I did that and the backpedaling was most interesting. Well, I need to be taking some steps to move forward myself.... Don't use the D word.
Then I would suggest that as soon as you are able, start doing adult things. I managed to get H to stay late to take care of toddler multiple times. I went out to dinner w/friends, shopping, etc.. I got a makeover and a haircut, I am redoing the bedroom, and I am going to get a henna tattoo and wear a toe ring. Then I am planning to take tennis lessons and looking at a club to join, maybe something where I can take the baby.
Here's the thing: He thinks he can waltz out and play w/OW for a while, and then he can waltz back and give you a few compliments and you will take him back.
He needs to start seeing that he isn't going to get to call all the shots.
My H had same attitude--since I started my activities a lot of the arrogance and hot air have gone out of him. He hasn't started to pursue so it's not like I can claim success...but he is looking chagrined.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
