My H was a happy drunk until he hit the MLC wall...and the depression set in on him... And I can guarantee the "little more friskie" certainly didn't set the mood for her...once in a while it was nice but when this became his way of approaching me it began to be a great turn off for me...it hurt for me to feel so repulsed by the one I loved so much...do you see how the emotions start overlapping and getting confusing for the other spouse?...it is hard... My H was not much into drama either...he hated if I got too emotional...but again...when he hit the MLC wall he started getting meaner and standing "his ground"...something he had not done before...this caused me to start the "walking on eggshells" routine that thus began the unhealthy chapter in our life of his MLC... I am so thankful to have him back...but I can say that there are parts of his personality now that I don't like...and parts of his "old self" that I truly miss (even if it was the drunk in him)...so again, there is still confusion...things for me to work out on my own...in my own time...
