Why do these things happen

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Lin,
Funny you should mention those books, they were brought up during my rehab, me in loving self help books bought them awhile back. As for drama, your right, there never has been much, if I try really hard I might even come up with 5 actual arguments we have had in the 10 years of marriage.
The one good thing, if there is such with alcoholism, is that "I was a happy, or sleepy drunk, never mean or abusive towards her" Those are her words. Maybe a little more friskie than normal for my part, and I know that sure didn't help set the mood for her.