Cobra wrote:"Both BF and Nop have revealed or discussed very little about their FOO (well BF has discussed his some in the past). Both have fared pretty well in their outlook on life, relationships, self esteem, career, etc., but the black hole of unresolved FOO still oozes out in everything they do, doesn’t it? You just can’t get away from it."

The above is completely presumptive on your part.

Care to cite an example?

-NOPkins-

I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.

-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.
-An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.