I am sorry your hurting right now Tam....really I am....but I really don't know what to say without sounding preachy... I think the best thing for you to do at this point is what you have done in the past...pull back, go dark, avoid face to face contact...obviously H is on the fence and you are feeling like the fence post right now...it isn't fair but that is how it is right now... Get busy...go take a walk...exercise is the best emotional booster there is...speaking of which, I have to go to my Jazzercise class...this is MY thing that I do for ME and it really does help... I hope you can start feeling better soon...all I can say is avoid H while you are like this because I know the pot is boiling and you are ready to start spouting some steam...I could see that in the previous postings after you "confirmed" he was with OW...so lay low...and get out and do something for YOU