What you state is exactly what I am seeing and it is that hypocrisy that irritates me too. That said, I think this double standard is in place for a reason, on that I can understand – it is a defense to avoid confronting pain, and to avoid giving up control which leads to confronting some sort of FOO fear. Both BF and Nop have revealed or discussed very little about their FOO (well BF has discussed his some in the past). Both have fared pretty well in their outlook on life, relationships, self esteem, career, etc., but the black hole of unresolved FOO still oozes out in everything they do, doesn’t it? You just can’t get away from it.
