Would you have allowed her to follow the same advice you give others here in trying to repair their marriage?
See, that is an interesting question. It seems like most Alpha males have their boundaries in place (which is good) but those boundaries also may tell them "if she betrays me, that's it, I'm out." I just find it interesting that people like Nop and BF really seem to have honest concern and helpful advice for the people on this board but would not take that advice themselves. Am I misinterpreting? I guess it just bothers me somewhat. I highly respect these men, but the "Alpha traits" seem to work against them when it comes to saving a messed up M. Maybe that is why BF kept referring to himself not being M material. Most M's are going to have problems, and let's face it, many are going to face betrayal (A's, abandonement, whatever). It seems like there is a disconnect between supporting Alpha male traits and also learning to forgive/repair a M in crisis. Can you have it both ways? Seems to me an Alpha man is not even going to go down that road to possible recovery. Just reflecting/rambling. LFL
