Need another opinion, is my W OM, friend or more?

[andyv]

OnTheBeach,

I have tried to get her to counselling. She want's no part of it.

She is suffering MLC, and rejects any advice from myself, family or friends.

They have all tried to talk to her, about many things that she is doing, but she has detached from everyone.

She has only started to come back to DD over the last month and a half.

I have tried everything, read through a dozen books on all matter MLC, infidelity, DB, DR etc

I am now GALing and have given her space for several weeks. Things have improved as far as her anger goes, and she is more co-operative.

I have told her that I do not want OM in my DD life, or home, and after D day she can do what she likes.

She has validated my concerns and told me she would respect my wishes (she seemed pretty genuine when she told me she could not see a problem as they are only friends).

But like you said, friends, EA, PA etc, she now understands that I do not want him in my "space" regardless of their intentions, innocent or otherwise.