growing and healing

[DadNotQuitting]

STR & COG;

Wow. As Frank knows my situation is dealing with a WAW that I have LET walk all over me. I had my reasons, mostly making excuses for her because of a lot of personal pain she holds in, but at end of the day, it has not served either of us well. After ten years of it, I finally just in the past few days began letting her know that her behavior towards me is unacceptable and I will not tolorate it. Like COG, I try to phrase that in a non-confrontational manner and hope it comes across that way. She tends to be defensive about it though and non-apologetic. I trust it will become easier for both of us over time. Since we have kids and no matter the outcome of a potential D, she will need to treat me with more respect in the future. I will demand it, and I have earned it.

I like seeing that COGs R turned after implementing this new way of being. For me, I know my wife looked at my allowing this behavior as a sign of me having little self-respect, which caused her to lose respect for me, which caused her to fall out of love with me. Brutal.

Taking STRs example, I intend to love unconditionally and let go. From their, I pray that our path will lead down the road to friendship and divert a divorce.

Thank you for showing me that this can and does work.

DNQ