I'm really liking your chances here. You are doing the one of the key things my wife has been looking hard for me to do; follow up and do what you say you are going to do. You are doing that with your continued sobriety (good work on that, congrats).
Plus, your ability to DB early on has made a big difference. I wasn't so, er, graceful? Mostly, I did the anti-DB and am still struggling. Snooping is one of my big downfalls, but it's getting better.
Your W's comment about you moving into the apartment being "too soon for that" it definitley a sign. You handled it very smooooooooooth. I probably would have wrecked the car, but that's just me.
As to what JRyan said above, what is her main beef? I can understand the alcohol thing and the destruction it brings, but is that all?
Want a real soap opera? Take a look at this. (sorry about the messy thread link)
Me: 39 WAW: 40 S10, D7, S6 Bomb #1 - 12-24-06: Move out (ILYBNILWY - admitted '05 PA) Move back: 3-2-07 (W: I still want to be married to you) Bomb # 2 - 4-11-07: (W: Can't do this - never loved you) Move out again: 4-29-07 Dark: 6-8-07