Need to defend B4 here a little. He's been doing this for literally years. Sometimes things do come from deep hurt and we can feel sympathetic to that but it doesn't help the fact that there may be illness that cannot be overcome.
My C asked me the question in our last session....if my W suddenly changed her mind and decided to stay in the marriage but also didn't get help, would I want that? The real answer is no. As C said, she feels sorry for all the people in jail that havehadterrible childhoods, lives, etc. but still wants them in jail.
Stand up for what is right, even if you are standing alone.
