Wife hits me.....need help....

[~Sol]

I had a good "talk" with my W. Not really R talk but more getting to her issues with depression and wanting to buy things, go places like Florida, when there is no money to do so. It is a BIG sign that she is going through another major depression phase. She hates her job, makes me the scapegoat even though I do own up to my faults after our talk, but she was just pointing the finger at me, but this time I didn't point back. I validated a little, but I flat out told her - "you need to get to a professional doctor and a therapist for your depression" That's as far as I went, and the rest of the time I tried to let her be.

I hope she sees that I care about her enough to bring this up. Maybe we are due for a little vacation away from here - but the LAST thing I wanna do is take our "problems" with us on a short vacation, ya know????

So that's essentially what happened tonight. Wife got emotional when I pointed out she needed to "fix herself" - especially after last Sundays drama and me being her punching bag while daughter was watching.......I am just at the point to do whatever it takes now. I have my own issues, yes, about not being happy. Well, I think my W tops my issues by a landslide....

I can't tackle our M problems and her own problems at the same time.