I have never before advised anyone to go 'dark', H, but I'm thinking it just may be the thing to do here. Your H is behaving like one weird duck (alien issues aside), and I just don't get it. Hopefully, someone will either support this idea, or have another recommendation. Hang in there. I think you're obviously giving lots of thought to what is best for YOU, and you're doing well under the circumstances.

Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened.

Me: 45 - WAH: 36
S8; D6
M: 11 yrs 07/06
Initial Bomb 10/06; D Bomb 11/06 - DBing begun 1/5/07 - H moved out 03/16/07
To date: No papers filed; H not seen a L; trying to convince me to MUTUALLY file for D