Starting to really piece it back together

[ourcrisis]

HB, I have the same feelings that he may be coming back for the kids. When h was an "alien", he said, "kids will survive, they do not affect my decision (to leave)". Now he came back, "because of many things". I had to swallow my pride that it is not just love for me alone. I do feel my h is really trying to be nice, but the refusal to talk about A (past and present) is killing me. Your h is probably going through depression. At least you know OW is out and your h is seeing C which is a good thing because IMHO, it is better that h can talk to someone to work it out becaues h cannot discuss the issues with you. Do you have trouble not knowing what his "issues" are? I do and am having a hard time.

Is he still scheduled to be back end of this month? You know my h is back. For me, it is more difficult because there are expectations (on how "in love" we should be, what he is doing at work, if he will remember doing something, how he reacts around me, etc.). I hope everything will be quite easy for you. It sounds like your h is honest to you so that's great.

to lost: if you can word it in a way to h to have him think about whether to have ow see the kids or have ow go somewhere on the visits, it may be worth a try? It should not, however, sounds like you are pushing him (e.g. "I don't want the kids around ow" is pushy??) Think of h as a regular friend, you won't be waiting around the phone for a regular friend to call, right? good luck.