I see W is pissed today. It is to be expected. But, she is ALSO getting pissed at OM, his pressure, his sense of entitlement to push her into doing things she doesn't want to do, and so on. This anger toward OM is protecting you and your M to some degree. OM is pushing W away HIMSELF.
If you start attacking her R with OM before she has a chance to process and figure out that she wants to be with you, you will turn this helpful dynamic around. She and OM will then become Team Anti-Choc. You will become the enemy of the team.
