Just a quick comment on this thread….. I think the latest few posts are moving in the wrong direction. The issue is not to debate CeMar on what expectations he should have of a marriage. If he thinks his wife should stand on her head each day for 10 minutes, than that is ok. The task for him is how to get her to agree to that? What is he willing to do to entice her to do this? What trade off is she willing to take in order to do this.
If CeMar wants his version of desire from his W, then fine. However I do believe there is merit in the criticism of his list of desire, because he may be setting the bar so unrealistically high that his W, nor any other woman, will reach for it. But he might try to get of the things meet.
What CeMar has not ever answered, even up to now, is what he has done to entice his W to meet his definition of desire. That includes positive and negative reinforcement. What is his carrot and stick?
CeMar, why should your W desire you as you want, besides that fact that you just think she should. What is her incentive? Why do you think that just because you read something in the Bible, or see comments on this board, that your W should desire you as you want? What have you offered her to get her moving in the right direction, even if it’s one little step? What are you willing to offer for trade?
