I totally understand what you mean and wish that someday my H understand this need that I have..."the need to be understood" So often I say or do something...or even try and explain something to him and he goes off thinking I meant something totally different...or he rejects me because he doesn't get where I am going...to be understood...truly understood is a glorious thing...and if my H just once said "I am trying to understand what you mean...."...I would fall all over myself..
But all is not lost in your situation 789, the fact she is "waffling"...not sure of what she wants says volumes of hope still exists...I didn't get this reassurance from my H when he was "out there"...it took lots of time and diligence on my part to take care of me so that I would be someone he wanted to return home to...but I feel I did that...
