My heart has been completely torn apart

[I_Surrender]

Thanks kindly for your reply. Unfortunatley each of us is different, as to our situations and tolerance level. This may limit me in what I accept, and what recovery our marriage achieves. I am stubborn, and perhaps unwilling to recognise the little steps that W is making to try and make things better

But I think your response triggered something I have used and applied in work, and also read about in marriage-saving articles;

This is to plan as if you will be successful, instead of waiting for failure.

So I will go ahead with plans for the weekend, and hope that they go well.

I will also continue to investigate the full ramifications of divorce, financially and legally. I still need to have a full rescue plan for myself.