i am really struggling with what i should do. i would not be filing because i want a divorce i would be doing it b/c i think it may help drive my wife home. if i new for sure that she would sign the papers then i would wait.
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i have done alot of educating as well. i have read alot about inscurity, depression, abandoment issues, sabotaging relationships and all kinds of things that seem to be her current characteristics.
i am really struggling with what i should do. i would not be filing because i want a divorce i would be doing it b/c i think it may help drive my wife home. if i new for sure that she would sign the papers then i would wait.
That's the gamble - will she snap out of it and come to or will she just sign and move on. You'll only know when you do it. Just gotta be sure you're ok with the bad thing happening and don't expect the good thing to happen. Stay positive but don't set yourself up for another huge fall. Hope for the best but prepare for the worst, type thing, you know?
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
i would not be filing because i want a divorce i would be doing it b/c i think it may help drive my wife home. if i new for sure that she would sign the papers then i would wait.
Definitely do not file if this is your reasoning. I think it would be more likely that she would see your filing as an indication that you didn't care to keep the marriage alive either. I think you would be looking at a major backfire.
Stand up for what is right, even if you are standing alone.
yeah, i am not going to do anything until after our 1 year anniversary which is june 3. if she doesn't acknowledge the day at all and at least call me then i thing it will be time to do something. i will at least set up a meeting where i validate everything she has said to be over the last 6 months and then say i am ready when you are.
there is an expert divorce saver and he has a book which i can email you guys if your interested. one of the members here sent it to me and it is really helpful. it has alot of the same principles as dbing. and one of his things is if she is seeking the emotional divorce one of the things you can do be all for it even to the point where you seek the legal divorce.
Thanks, although I've probably seen it. I think I've seen nearly all of them over the last year. Other that DB and DR i think th ebest thing I've read was Mort Fertel's "Marriage Fitness" and "The Five Love Languages". I wish I had read them 5 years ago although I'm not sure the issues in my M would have changed at all.
Stand up for what is right, even if you are standing alone.
this guys name is homer macdonald. i bought the 5 love languages but reading it after the fact kind of made me sad because i can't really put into effect what i learned. i think i will read through it better when i get back into another relationship.
another reason i may have to persue divorce is because i do alot of buying and selling properties and with this hanging in the balance i have not really been able to do any of it.
another reason i may have to persue divorce is because i do alot of buying and selling properties and with this hanging in the balance i have not really been able to do any of it.
Do that through a trust or corporation that she can't touch. You can definitely protect your business. Go find a lawyer who specializes in business to help you. You can't let your relationship negatively affect your business, then where would you be?
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
