Yoyo, my W tells me not to talk the OMW also. Who in the heck is she that she thinks that she can tell me what I can and cannot do. I have only talked to OMW half a dozen times or so, she doesn't realize it but she is really showing me how big of a loser her H is.
Theoden, it is ok to be pissed off, vent, scream, whatever you need to do. You are human and these are human reactions to lifes stresses. This does not mean that you have "issues".