Well you are right, having kids does change the landscape of all this quite a bit, but I can tell you that I never would have expected to be doing this for over a year. To be honest, during that time I have been up and down a lot, and I have made good choices and some bad ones. I have educated myself about my W's serious issues and now see her with more realistic eyes. I have also learned a great deal about myself and have gone a loooong way at making myself a better, healthier, stronger person. So in the end, even if all does go badly, I will not regret the year plus that has been spent trying to save it all.
And you'll know without a doubt you did everything you could to save your M, that will be key to your future happiness. That's why I've been kind of suggesting to Bit that he relax a bit but when you've been separated longer than you've been together well, that's a whole other thing...I think he's stud for sticking it out as long as he has.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
