i guess the mental illness your talking about is depression. i think my wife has dealt with that as well after losing her father very suddenly in july. she is very negative about everything that has anything to do with me. it sucks but she seems to have taken all her anger out on me.
she seems to be softening now she has been pretty nice lately which in the beginning would have been impossible to believe but she still really shoes no signs of wanting to make it work.
