hoping to do it without lawyers. number 1 i don't think she can afford one. number 2 after such a short marriage she is not entitled to anything. there is a place in nj where you can get a divorce filed for $700 and i have brought it up several times and she ignores it or gives a reason why we have to wait. i just paid for a wedding and honeymoon i am not real keen on paying for a divorce as well.
Well that means they're probably para-legals doing the paperwork and they'll be just as cold and heartless. They don't care about you they just want to get the paperwork done and move on to the next case. Anyway, I'm not trying to talk you out of filing, just be prepared for the different feelings. I thought the TPO was bad enough but when her lawyer brought me the papers and I saw they were dated the same day, I was devastated. It took some serious getting used to (well as "used to" getting divorced as you can be I guess).
You're in a tough spot, again I commend you for sticking it out. I know most people would have bailed after such a short time. And you're young and can find someone else pretty quick, if you so desire. Good luck man! I can't say that enough...
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
