I don't remember if I wrote it before, but I found out that in both of my W's previous marriages, the husbands were actually the petitioners for the divorce. I have now had two therapists tell me that that is not at all surprising even though she claims to have left those marriages herself. Her pattern is to decide she wants out then stick around making life more unbearable a little at a time until the H has enough and says "I quit too". That way she can claim it was a mutual decision and not have to take any responsibility for it.
I have repeatedly said that I WILL NOT play that game and file first but I wonder now if she will take this more and more to the kids. She knows my line in the sand is if I start to see an impact on them and I am wondering if she will get desperate at some point and start crossing that line. I guess on the plus side it would give me more ammunition in a custody dispute but I would hope it doesn't come to that.
Emotional/mental illness is wonderful isn't it?
Stand up for what is right, even if you are standing alone.
