because what she has done is not right. how long can we let someone hold us hostage and feeling like this. we can't let go on forever. if there was a guarantee it would be a different thing but there isn't. my wife says we should do it now because we would end up divorced in ten years anyway.(who says that) my wife has verbally given me no hope. just because i file doesn't mean i can't go back. the fact that my wife hasn't filed and the fact that when i told her i needed to talk to her she called me 12 times in one day plus visited and sent 2 emails, makes me think that if i file it maybe the exact wake up call she needs. at least i will get some type of closure one way or the other.
if i had kids it would be different, and if i had more time invested but i was only married 6 months before the seperation.
hey jryan do you know how to link the old threads?
All good points, just gotta see what is really important to you and go for it. Good point about filing, my wife filed on day 1 of our S and so far nothing has really happened with that. We have temporary orders and that is totally scary and it really sucks, but at least she's not freaking out demanding a divorce RIGHT NOW, like I thought she was going to do (we'll see what she says next week with our church leader). Little things matter a lot I guess. The TPO sucks too but those aren't the things that got me to start changing myself - it was seeing how sad my wife looked in court the first day, it broke my heart and I vowed to never do that to ANYONE let alone the woman I share my life with and have children with! It was such an epiphany. Anyway, I'm rambling. Good luck with your decision. If you do file, be cool about it. No sense getting all worked up over it and ruining things for you even further. Protect yourself and feel good about yourself. Just remember Lawyers make the process cold and heartless, don't let that make YOU that way. I'm battling that right now...
To link a thread, right click on the title of the thread, choose "properties" then copy and paste the URL (scroll down to make sure you get the whole thing, it's long). Then go to where you want to paste it and click the link button (upper lefthand of of your text window) and follow the prompts. Good luck!
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
