I heard from my H that one of the things that "clinched" him wanting a D was seeing his grandparents and the way they are and he doesn't want to end up like them. They are HORRIBLE!! Anyway, luckily I was able to show him we don't have to end up like that.

You do need to look at all the issues in your M and what is affecting what, but don't let all the garbage cover up the basics of just learning how to love each other and relate to each other again.

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10