One link at a time

[BeingMe]

I go away for a week, and come back to find my thread locked!

Me: 49
H: 44
Married: 21 years
4 children: D26 (married with 2 children), Twins 19 (B/G), and D14
Bomb: May 2004
Reconciled: May 2005

Sir Winston Churchill said, "It is a mistake to try to look too far ahead. The chain of destiny can only be grasped one link at a time." I find this statement pertinent to our sitches. So often, we try to know the future, we want reassurances from our spouses that all will be right. But, no-one can know the future. We can just take it one step at a time. Rushing the reconciliation gets one nowhere .... fast.

So, my trip turned out to be a bit of a waste of time (picked up a cold on the way there, and was sick the whole time - my friends took good care of me), except that I did get to see my D19 who is 17 weeks pregnant. She seems happy, but I can only imagine how nervous she must be. Her BF is a mother's worst nightmare, but what can we do, 'eh! She is an adult now, and must follow her own destiny. All we can do, as parents, is be there if she needs us. I have learned through DB'ing the positive attributes of lovingly detaching, which has helped me so much in dealing with my daughter's sitch.

On my 12 hour trip, I listened to the cd of The Secret, and it was very interesting. I am hoping it will help my H in his life right now. He is very down, and feels like a failure because so much is happening at the same time - work and the business he was trying to get started. He has hit some glitches, that are very frustrating. I am trying to be supportive, but it's hard when he is so down. As I told him, all businesses hit bumps in the road, and one just has to keep moving forward. I guess it's easier said then done, 'eh! His ego, and self worth, is very much wrapped up in his ability to work, and support his family. Which is great, but there is more to life than work, IMO.

Anyway, enough rambling. There isn't much more I can add to the piecing sitch. Things are pretty much the same between us. I had hoped that he would miss me while I was away, but I think the whole work and business thing kept him very much occupied, and distracted. Ah well!

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