Alamari and PS you girls have learned something that most are still learning. I wish my W would have picked up on this a long time ago. She would then realize how important she is to me, how her actions can make or break a R and have better control over the general mood of the house. If you are to feel as one with your spouse and be able to face things as a team, you have to "be one".
So often it is said, if you want your H to be the man you want, then make him feel the most important thing in your life. In response, he will try to do the things (hell or high water) that you have told him is important in your life. For me, I'm an in and out shopper. But if my wife wants to shop, I'm there for the long haul. If there is a close, unified feeling there, heck I'll go till dinner. In fact some of my best memories are Christmas shopping with W.
W made the comment to me once that I went into high gear in chores and things when I wanted S. She didn't see that I was trying to do the things that seem important to her, so that she would know that she was most important to me. Of course W had to take the negative, "men are scum, everyone is against me", spin on everything to justify her sour attitude. Now, however, the kids have given up on trying to do things that would make her happy and somedays, so do I.
So as you girls have learned, take care of the basics and the rest will follow.
