Excellent point. Our R turned for the better when I quit taking my W's crap, and began standing up for myself. That's one area that I do counsel her. When she's out of line, being rude, petty, etc. I don't put up with that anymore. I counsel her alright, but I do it in the spirit of love, support, and encouragement, not from hurt and anger. I look her in the eye, and let her know her behaivior is not OK with me, but I do it in a way that is not confrontational, and does not put her on the defensive. I pick the right time, place, and attitude first. Our R has grown leaps and bounds by being honest and accepting of each other.
God Bless,
COG
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