(remember when others on the board thought I was Mr. LFL and you were Mrs. Choc.? LOL)
I am Mrs. Chocolate, everyone knows that. Although I have been really good lately - I only have my decadent chocolate chip muffin once a week now. I cried when I found out there was 730 calories in each one.
Anyways, back to you. So you will still have two younger boys in the house. I wonder if the gender is an influence. I know my H said his Dad felt very "alone" in the house when he left for college. Just his W and sister were in the house now and I guess his Dad couldn't handle having his son gone. Hmmm.... I guess it's hard when any of our kids grow up. Mine are only 7 and 5, so I have a ways to go.
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But I do fully acknowledge my role in all of this, and that, as much as anything, is what keeps me up at night. I have been stupid, I have been neglectful, but most of all I have figuratively spat upon the gift that God gave me in Susan.
"Here, Paul -- here is my gift for you. Cherish her and protect her."
I've none neither to the level that He would expect, nor have I been a strong leader in setting boundaries and helping her be accountable to her half of it.
Wanna talk about GUILT, try living with THAT
Be careful with the guilt Choco. My H feels Very Guilty about leaving and it is NOT helping our R. I don't want a man who is going to walk on eggshells around me just to keep me around. If anything, it does the opposite. So just be a MAN Choco and ditch the negative feelings. They won't help you in the long run. The most attractive men are the one's that are self-assured, that stand their ground, while at the same time letting the woman know how much she is desired. It's a balancing act for sure. Work on the boundaries Choco. LFL
