I honestly thought (and this may be naive on my part) that once I re-opened-up to her, and told her how I really felt, and also made a stand and told her that I was going to fight for her and our marriage and our family . . . that she would "come around." She's done that before, as I think I've written on here recently -- some long-distance internet dalliances, twice in 20 years. She would come to her senses and do the right thing.
I guess I'm in shock that she doesn't seem to be doing the right thing this time -- at least not immediately.
Well, still too early to tell Choco. She may "come to her senses" or she may be thinking, the kids are almost out of the house now, time for me to get that "space" she wants so badly. I can't remember how many kids you have but I know you said you have a hs graduation coming up. It's often those milestones that make parents take their own milestones. My H's father left his mother the day he drove my H off to college. Guess that was the time he was waiting for. Did his job of raising him, got him out of the house, and off his Dad went. Could his mother have done something beforehand? Can't say for sure. But you know your part in this mess Choco. You have been ignoring her comments to you and have admitted many times on this board that you just didn't care what she was thinking/doing. It's been years of that and will be very hard to fix. But you know that. That is also why I stated earlier you need to show a side of yourself that your W has been yearning for. Someone who acts like they care, and not just going through the motions of what you think a "good H" should do. But be REAL with her. If you feel like you don't know if you can take her disrespect any longer, I'd tell her that. She needs to know that you are not going to just back down every time she decides to have "space" from the M. You're doing better. Keep it up. LFL
