A woman can lead, but she won't be attracted to anyone who follows her. She can threaten, but she won't be attracted to anyone who backs down.
She'll be attracted to people who listen to her, and evaluate her input, and use it of their own free will.
So, the porn. He thinks that porn is acceptable and enjoys it. She tries to take it away from him. Just like his mother would. Now if he rolls over and lets her, he could end up without the porn and without getting much in the way of sex, either. Unthinkable! If she threatens him, backing down could be even worse. Better to pretend to back down, to defuse her anger, without actually backing down and making himself weak and unattractive.
So he won't give up the porn until he decides it's not worth doing. If he gives it up purely to please you, you still won't be happy with him.
There's lots of tales on this site of men who only turned their lives around when their wives were ready to leave. Not one of them won his wife back by giving in to her! Several tried giving in to the wife and thereby drove her further away. Every last man that won his wife back did it by taking her valuable insight and using it to make better decisions for himself! He didn't follow her; he learned from her and followed his own judgement that he bettered with her knowledge and thereby became more attractive to her.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
