I don't know Cemar. I am very HD and I don't want to do a lot of those things on your list with my H. Desire is a two-way street. And that is part of the problem. If it's not there, it's not there. Sort of like what I was saying regarding the domination/submission stuff on my thread. Yes, people can technically act that out I guess, maybe. But to actually enjoy it is another thing all together. You can't force desire. So I agree with you that it can be Very frustrating. But maybe when it comes to M, as others have stated, that expectation of total desire is just not realistic. You either deal with it in a healthy manner, or live your life angry and resentful, or you get out. Seems like you are choosing option 2. How's that working for you? LFL
