I think you should go back and read Muddle's post several times and let what he said sink in. That's probably some of the best advice I've seen given to you in awhile (and while you're at it, read Joyful's post a few times as well).
There is no doubt in my mind that you remain codependent upon your W for YOUR happines. You need to break this codependcy cycle and find happines for you. Continuing to be this emmeshed in your relationship is only going to lead to furhter unhappiness for you and your W.
"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu
